Posted by: soulshinemoments | August 16, 2013

A couple days into one entry



I’m sitting in a local coffee shop awaiting my Baptiste yoga class.  It’s gray, rainy, cool outside and I love it.  I am ready for all things fall…including school which starts on Monday.  I’m ready to see my friends in my program.  I’m ready to have my brain stimulated by all kinds of interesting (and sometimes not) social work readings.  I’m ready to delve deeper into my passion and purpose in this life. 

I  asked to shadow my supervisor at hospice today. 

She met with this one family who was having all kinds of turmoil and drama going on.  The mother was on hospice.  She was 89 years old, from New York, and one of the toughest and most fiery 89 year olds I have ever seen.  The 89 year old was butting heads with the family members and got so ticked off at them (over seemingly petty stuff), that the patient decided that she wanted to go to Florida to live with her sister.  My supervisor remained amazingly diplomatic as the patient and her family bantered back and forth.

My supervisor asked me before we met with the patient and knowing the drama that would most likely ensue: “Have you ever had any crisis intervention classes yet?”

“No, I haven’t.”

“Well, what you learn in those classes are that it is not our jobs as social workers to fix everything in crisis.  What we are required to do is just to make things as calm as possible and as they were before whatever conflict occurred.”

I liked that for some reason.  We don’t have to save and change the world.  We just have to promote peace.  That seemed much more do-able.

Sure enough, when we arrived, the hospice patient and the other family members started bantering back and forth. I found it ridiculous that the family would give one of their family member who was on HOSPICE care any drama because her days are so numbered.  At the same time, it is also ridiculous for the hospice patient to have issues with her family who was kind enough to carve out space for her in their tiny and over-crowded house.  But, as the chaplain once told me, “It is not our place to judge.” 

My supervisor was incredible at not showing bias while working with the family. She  informed me later, “I just let them vent. ”  Everyone just wants to feel heard and understood.  We left their house with the peace relatively in tact, the patient confirming to us her plans to move to Florida with her sister, and my supervisor wiping her brow, glad to be out of the house.

Friday, 8/16/2013

I just returned back from dinner.  I took Ariel out to Golden Corale.  Jack and Jackson are en route to Ohio so it is just us girls at the house this weekend.  This will be the longest I’ve ever been separated from Jackson.  I miss him already.  When I picked him up out of his crib this morning, I pulled him into bed with me for a second.  He pointed at his toes and said to me, “Mama, Mama! Whee, wheeeee???” 

Translation: He wanted me to grab his little tootsies and say, “this little piggy went to the market, this little piggy stayed home, this little piggy had roast beef, this little piggy had none, THIS little piggy went wheee wheee wheee, all the way home!” 

Damn, I love that child.  Everything about him melts my heart.  But, I will try not to weep in my pillow tonight missing him.  Jackson’s papa will have fun seeing Jackson and this warms my heart.

I’m ready to enjoy my last weekend before school starts and relax and do NOTHING!

Peace & Blessings!

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